You have probably gone through an extremely difficult and emotionally draining time in your life, but rest assured, you are entering an exciting chapter now.  Women usually enter this period with great sorrow and bruised self-confidence, but that should be far from the case.  Consider yourself free and know that your options from this moment on are endless.  See, doesn’t that light a fire inside?  You should enter this time in your life feeling better than ever about yourself.  Why?  Because you have come out with great wisdom and you’re more mature than you were when you first met your ex.  He can’t take away the lessons you learned from your experiences together.  You’re probably nodding your head now because you’re aware of your great insight.  And believe me when I tell you that you’ll forever use that to your advantage.

Now it’s time to be fabulous, but it isn’t going to happen overnight.  First, you need a little help from your friends.  They will be your support system through this change, and hopefully they have already offered you help and guidance through the divorce.  You may think they’re too busy and self-involved at this time but no matter how busy they seem to be, there is always time for some scheduled fun.  That’s right, you need to be surrounded by your girls as often as time permits.  Schedule some spa time at first.  Sometimes women need to look good to feel good.  A manicure and a facial works wonders for me, immediately boosting my confidence.  Others, however, may be keen on a bigger change.  I know of one woman who got breast implants after her divorce because it was something she had entertained for a while but never had a reason to follow through on.  She did it solely for herself, and not that I necessarily endorse plastic surgery, but if it’s something that feels right and will give you the confidence to get on with your life then I say go for it.  Looking good is feeling good, so exercise and eat well too at this time.  You’ll notice and instant lift in spirits if you’re treating your body with the respect it deserves. 

Don’t be afraid to get out there and meet new people from time to time.  While you will want to surround yourself with old, comfortable friends you need to remind yourself that there are other great people out there.  Just because you meet new men doesn’t mean you have to start dating.  Date when you’re ready – and when you’re ready you’ll know it.  In the meantime, making new friends and acquaintances will be the best thing for you.  We women tend to bury ourselves in our work and our children’s lives, but as we know, it’s not healthy for our own mental health and personal growth.  Our work and children are the most important things in our life, but we must remember not to neglect ourselves.  Do not let this dissolution of your marriage dictate how you live your life.  Move forward with your head held high.  You owe to yourself and all that you’ve been through to make the most of this new stage.